We all desire some form of being connected with each other, to be appreciated and acknowledged. Yet some of us have trouble admitting it even to ourselves. It is ok to want to be liked, but you have to do so by not going out of your way to people, please.
I call it holding your shape. I have used a simple trick when I am faced with a difficult situation or conversation; I think of my grandmother on my shoulder and ask myself would she have been proud of my actions, and my integrity. My students tell me this has worked for them. Come up with your own mantra that works for you and stop worrying about people-pleasing. As Tracie Bennett said," I used to be a major people pleaser, but that way purgatory lies."